Arguments are usually no fun but they’re bound to happen. When they do, some worry that the bonds they’ve established with their loved one will diminish. This is a myth. According to Xavier Amador, PhD and author of I’m Right, You’re Wrong, Now What?, states that “Fighting is a necessary ingredient for intimacy. It shows that you’re invested enough to want to hash something out instead of just writing each other off.”
This isn’t a green light to start a brawl just because. It’s merely a true statement that applies to healthy, adult relationships. Every couple fights, there’s no way around it. Unless you’re highly medicated and seeing rainbows and sunshine in everything, it’s simply unavoidable. You just need to learn to deal with it in a healthy way.
It’s hard to be mad at a person if they’re always in a good mood and see the positives in everything. Unless of course, you are a fighter. Happy people tend to annoy you. I mean, who can smile all day long? Somethings got to piss them off!
If this is your mood, you thrive on confrontation and drama. No fight can ever be lost. You must conquer all! And you must be the worst mate ever! Fighting is a necessary part of relationships, but not everything should be fought over. Alright ladies, I’ll give you the toilet seat being up as one, but men, do we really have to fight over the remote control when our shows are on?
If you’re more of a lover, most nights will end well for you. Your partner will be more likely to do the things you want to do, not get mad at you when things don’t go their way, and compromise when things aren’t agreeable. This is because they know you’re a soft-hearted and gentle creature who likes to nurture, not torture!
You tend to be the romantic type who still buys flowers and opens car doors. (ARE THERE ANY OF YOU OUT THERE?) But even lovers can put up a good fight once in a while. It’s human nature to defend what you think is right, even if it means fighting with your beloved.
If you and your loved one are happy, most fights end quickly and turn out well, so there’s really no need to get bent out of shape. Let the anger run it’s course and try to focus on the issue at hand, not letting it escalate into past arguments. This could mean breaking out the boxing gloves…
If the two of you are at a constant battle of the witts, there may be an underlying issue that needs to be dealt with. Lashing out in anger at every little thing is usually a big sign. Whether you are a lover or a fighter, remember that occasional fighting is healthy. You may even want to start one once in a while just so you can make up!
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