People fall in and out of love regularly. For some, it’s a game. For others it’s just plain bad luck. So how do couples make it to their 50th wedding anniversary? Do they have a well hidden secret the rest of us are unaware of? Or do they just know how to take the good with the bad?
Love is an emotion, yes, but emotions are created largely by our perceptions. If we perceive there are going to be problems, more than likely there will be. Communication is key to a great relationship. Understanding your partners needs and desires is vital to keeping the doors of communication open. One hand feeds the other. Simple math some may say.
Finding ways to enjoy each other’s company while balancing your independence can sometimes be a tricky obstacle. You don’t want to spend every aching moment of the day with them but you also need to be careful not to grow distant and become vulnerable to falling for another person.
Spirituality and religion is another touchy subject that may want to be broached before taking a big leap. If you were raised in totally different backgrounds and cannot agree on a middle ground, I suggest it be resolved before fighting over the “I Do” aisle you walk down. Even if you share denominations, it should be clearly stated how much or how little you want that interjected into your relationship.
Nothing can kill a bond faster than having one person feel undesirable or dissatisfied. Be perceptive not only in the bedroom, but in any physical situation. Watch for body language and reactions to touch and flirting. Pay attention to comments while watching movies or talking about other people. Don’t initiate sexual conversation on the first date, but definitely find out soon if you see eye to eye in the bedroom.
It’s easy to determine which areas require compatibility to maintain a successful relationship. Continue to focus on the positive qualities to strengthen it. The critical attainment factor lies in knowing what you want, proper communication, and knowing how to compromise when you have found that special someone.
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