We’ve all seen him- men and women alike. “That guy” standing across the room with a hideous outfit on and foo foo girly drink in hand, scoping out every woman in the bar. Our first instinct: RUN! But we don’t. Instead we watch him. All night. He stays in the same spot just watching all the girls go by, yet not speaking to one of them, knowing he’ll get shot down or a drink thrown in his face.
Everybody has experienced rejection, in one form or another. And let’s face it- it’s not fun. Try to look at it as a learning experience. An opportunity for improvement, if you will. If you let yourself get depressed about every single rejection, you are going to ware yourself pretty darn thin. The quicker you forget about it, the quicker you move on.
Let’s say you meet a girl and want to talk to her. You approach her, say what you “think” she wants to hear and she blows you off. Don’t contemplate it as rejection, you did nothing wrong. She doesn’t know you or what kind of person you are, so really, there’s nothing lost here.
When you meet an interesting girl, don’t go on a date with the mind-set that you have to make her your girlfriend. Take the time to get to know her and be open and honest about yourself. She will be receptive if you are interesting and worth getting to know.
Don’t try to “sell yourself” because you’ll just end up looking and sounding like a game show host. Be yourself, not who you think she would want you to be. If you like her, ask her out again. It’s that simple. A date is nothing more than an opportunity to get to know someone and see if there’s any chemistry.
Do not make up a fantasy girl because she does not exist. She is a figment of your imagination, someone you dreamed up with the qualities you would like to find in a woman. You may end up getting disappointed if the one you see doesn’t meet or exceed your “fantasy girls” stats.
There really are no set of rules to follow that will guarantee you success. Just stay on track with your personal goals, don’t compare yourself to others, and have a lot of confidence. Women can sense a man who is insecure and we tend to overlook them. If you have anxiety about approaching a girl, practice. Set your goal to three a day, and just walk up to a stranger, introduce yourself or give a compliment to get over your anxiety of approach. The more confident you are, the less likely you are going to end up that creepy guy in the corner wishing you were someone else.
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