Yes, we all think we’re perfect and no man can improve us. That’s a common misconception among us high maintenance girls, am I right? But for the ever romantic people out there, here are a few tips to keep in mind while you’re entering into or trying to improve a relationship.
Don’t be selfish: It’s nice to get what you want, but c’mon, ya gotta give a little as well. That doesn’t mean sharing your french fries! That means compromise. Things don’t always have to be your way. I know, SHOCKER! Now close your mouth and read on. If you are one of those insanely selfish divas who won’t give up her nail appointment to drive her boyfriend to pick up his car, which broke down while taking you to see a chick flick, then it’s time to look in the mirror. And not at how amazing your new make-over is.. Like, OMG! But seriously look at yourself and say: he’s worth it- I can do this.
Don’t be clingy: Most guys can’t stand needy, whiney girls. And if they can, they are probably one themselves. There are plenty of ways to show affection without becoming a permanent fixture on his arm. Pinch his butt when he walks by, give him a quick peck on the cheek for no apparent reason, make plans without him. Chances are, you not hanging on his every word will intrigue him and make him want to spend more time with you.
Eat!: Men HATE when they take you to a nice restaurant and you pull the “I’ll have a salad and water” routine. You know you eat, they know you eat, so eat! That doesn’t mean order the biggest steak on the menu, but get something with a little substance will ya!
Say I’m Sorry: I know, I know… those two words don’t go together! I mean, you’re never wrong, right? Or is that you’re right when you’re wrong?? I don’t get it. And most people don’t. Apologizing is one of the biggest problems in relationships because nobody wants to admit that they’re wrong. But being over apologetic is just as bad. Anyone ever been with someone who was ALWAYS saying I’m sorry, even when it WASN’T their fault?? Ughhh!! Just own up to your mistakes and everyone will be happier in the end.
Show interest: Everyone has things in common on some level. But if you and your mate just don’t seem to click on extra curricular activities, ask him to take you along sometime when he goes biking (even tho you have to wear a corny helmet). Make him go outside with you to plant flowers, he can carry the tools! The point is, it CAN be fun, if you’re doing it together.
Take the time to really get to know your partner and his habits. It may take some adjusting if you’re not use to these things, but it will definitely benefit your relationship by trying.
01/03/2010 at 1:12 pm Permalink
as a man I agree with these especailly, the one about you need to apoligize often too!!!