Did you know that some of the best flirting can be done without saying a word? Body language is a fool proof way to convey your interest, or lack of, to a man. Without even realizing it, your posture, what your hands are doing, if your legs are crossed, all speak volumes about who you are and what you’re thinking.
We may question that men aren’t the sharpest tack in the box, but they are pretty good at interpreting a woman’s body language. Make sure you are in complete control of signals, because you don’t want to send the wrong one.
Use body language to your advantage and give yourself the upper hand. Send only the signals you want him to receive. Here are a few of the most common with a brief description:
EYE CONTACT: Is the first way you will connect. Just be careful how long you gaze, unless you are prepared to scare him off. Some men don’t like such direct behavior and may be put off by it. But if there is a connection and you both feel it, he may be aroused by feeling he is the only person in the room. If you aren’t comfortable and feel odd staring into his eyes, simply gaze at him. Hold eye contact for a moment then casually look away. Doing this throughout the conversation will let him know you are interested, but won’t scare him off by thinking you are reading deep into his soul.
ARM CROSSING: One of two things can happen here. You are either trying to draw attention to your chest, which is sneaky! Or you are telling him you don’t like him and are completely annoyed. Be mindful the placement of your arms and keep your expression in tune with it. If you have them tightly wrapped with a scowl on your face, I think he’ll get the hint! But if you’re flirting, your arms may be a little lower while squeezing his favorite two things together!
LEG CROSSING: A dangerous signal so beware! If he sees you squirming in your seat, he has the upper hand. He will know that somehow he’s getting to you. Many people cross and uncross their legs unconsciously but it makes you look anxious, so be careful. If your top leg is pointed in his direction, it’s a sign that you like him. It can also be interpreted as a provocative gesture as well, so if you’re Sharon Stone, cross away!
LICKING YOUR LIPS: The major “let’s go!” signal! Running your tongue along your lips is a sultry way of saying, I want you! So take heed ladies. If you just have a dry mouth, drink water! Watch the lips because most men understand this to mean they will be taking you back to their place! If that’s what you want, go easy on the lipstick that night!
HAIR TWIRLING: Playing with your hair may be a nervous habit, but it can also send the wrong message to your date. It conveys boredom in conversation, or flirtingly, can just be a playful gesture. A lot of men don’t like the hair tufting so draw his attention some other way.
LEANING IN TOWARDS HIM: The most common body language signal. This gesture shows you are interested so don’t go overboard with it. You have to keep him guessing! Leaning away from him tends to mean you are not very impressed and he needs to work overtime to keep your attention.
There are many more ways to use body language to your advantage but that’s up to you and your desires. If you plan on going home alone that night, maybe you’ll want to cross your arms instead of licking your lips!
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