At any point in time, you may find yourself in an argument. Whether you left the toilet seat up again or you zigged when you were suppose to zag, your expectation is that you are going to lose this fight.
You don’t want to be the coward in the corner getting lectured from your girl when you really could have won without a scratch. No matter how compelling your argument or how wrong she may be, fair is definitely not the name of the game. She will not admit when she is wrong, so don’t expect it.
Your logic is abandoned during an argument so the trick is to prove to yourself you’re right, while making her believe she is as well. Follow these simple rules and turn the tables on your next fight to come out the winner.
Listen To Her: You know you have a poor reputation for listening so be the exception. Let her talk and yell and when it’s time for you to cough up an excuse, repeat what she said to prove you were listening. If you spend your time recapping her rant, you may not even have to come up with an excuse because she’ll be so impressed with your listening skills.
Don’t Raise Your Voice: No matter what the situation or how angry you are, speak quietly. If you are the composed type, let her anger run it’s course. Sit back and keep quiet. And remember, if she gets on the conversing level with you and calms down, you won.
Stay On The Subject: When the mood is confrontational, discuss only the issue at hand. Don’t let other gripes creep into the conversation or you will be settled in for a long one. Pick your battle and fight it wisely.
Use The Emotional Card: Both women and men fight because they’re feeling emotional at the moment. It’s more culturally acceptable coming from a woman but don’t be afraid to act hurt by things she says. An aggressive man showing emotion mid argument is often looked at as a softie. And who can resist that? Bingo. You win.
Admit You’re Wrong: There will be wars you don’t want to win so just roll over and play dead. Check your pride at the door, admit you’re wrong and she will never win that one. She’ll be too stunned and upset at not being able to sling insults before you fess up. War won.
Everybody has different expectations about winning an argument, but the art of war is still the same. If your girl is cold as ice and none of these work, it’s time to tell her off. If winning an argument is worth destroying your relationship or if destroying it is worth winning back your life, start firing insults. Be warned: there is no going back after this launch is engaged. This is where the men are separated from the boys. But the most important thing men need to understand- there wouldn’t be any make-up sex without a few arguments!
31/03/2010 at 5:59 pm Permalink
How true. It’s funny how you titled this “How To Win A Relationship War With Your Girl” while in fact you are just saying how to stay calm and listen to your girl when you are in an argument because you know you don’t have a chance to win it.
I’d like to say about half the time in my relationship I win the argument, we don’t really fight that much though.
Really nice article and it was really fun to read. I like your writing style.
JM