If you have a guy who is emailing, calling and texting but won’t go any further, it’s time to assess the situation. Is he just working up the nerve because he thinks you’re out of his league? Maybe he’s shy and doesn’t know what to do or say next because he’s afraid of rejection. Worse case scenario- he’s in a relationship or married already. He loves the flirting and temptation but is afraid to kick it up a notch and take it to the next level.
Take the honest approach and just ask him if he is in a relationship. If it’s not infidelity, it sort of forces you to talk about the real issue at hand. Maybe it will finally open up the door for him to ask you out! If you think he’s just not that into you, follow these steps and he soon will be. Below are a few reminders of what guys really dig, so keep them in mind!
You don’t take crap. From anyone. That includes him. He respects that you can hold your own and not be walked on, IF he’s a real man that is. This does not give you the right to be a bitch, ladies. It simply means stand your ground and do not back down.
You make him look good. If he really isn’t that funny but you laugh at his jokes anyway, you’re in. Making him look good in front of his friends or co-workers is definitely a plus. Do not fall all over him in the process. Keep it simple and natural.
You have your own life. If it’s one full of wonderful friends, family and personal pride, that’s even better. Traveling and being independent are essential to a well rounded person. You shouldn’t have to rely on your mate to keep you busy at all times.
You can be sexy without being slutty. It’s great if you’re confident and take pride in yourself. If you can do that without your chest hanging out and your skirt as small as a napkin, you are a catch. Guys love to be intrigued and wonder what’s really under all those clothes. If you can pull this off, he’s yours!
You don’t crank the dial on the pressure gauge. Face it- most men are afraid of the M word. (marriage) Your relationship is suppose to be fun and easy going. Not full of pressure and anxiety. If you nag him, you will push him away. And if you don’t push him away, you will push him into misery. A man will propose when he is good and ready, not when he is forced to.
If you can balance these tasks without fail, you are golden. Any man would be lucky to have you and kissing the ground you walk on.
30/03/2010 at 9:46 am Permalink
The thing that turns me off the most about a woman is when she is insecure, and not confident with herself. I actually find it irritating and annoying. These girls are the girls who get mad at their boyfriends who do not want to spend every living second with them. Guys like to have their own lives just like girls.