How many times have you caught your spouse watching the clock or checking his phone as you’re speaking? Does he even hear what you’re saying? Doubtful. Selfish men have a habit of just sitting and pretending to listen as your mouth is moving. It’s their “mandatory hearing” kicking in and believe me, you are not alone.
This is a huge complaint among women. Yea, so you may not want to hear about how we are going to rearrange the living room, but pretend to be interested at least! We women get excited over little things and like to share them- deal with it. Do you think we want to hear the score on the Knicks game? No, but we listen.
More and more couples seem to be drifting apart due to non communication and lack of interest. If you are stuck in a rut with someone who constantly ignores you, what is your first instinct? Finding someone who WILL listen to you and share things with you. Problem there: infidelity may arise. I’m not saying all women turn to this, I’m merely stating a fact. We, just like men, need attention.
If your guy is rude and always on his phone or computer, you need to step in and make it known. Ignoring the situation only allows anger to build up and when you unleash it, look out!
It’s very disheartening when you go to an event, or a family gathering and you are left to fend for yourself. You may walk in as arm candy, but then you’re left there while he’s working the crowd. Eventually you come to resent him for this and just refuse to attend any sort of function with him. You need to devise a simple plan that will please both of you and make doing things together more pleasurable. Be it a friend (male or female), your guy will be replaced if he can’t give you what you need.
The first thing you need to establish is if your mate even realises this is an issue with you. Some men just go about their business thinking nothing of it. If they are having fun, they think you are as well. Simply state your feelings, but don’t lash out at him. Try to get him to see it in a different perspective and let him know it is upsetting to feel left out all of the time.
Don’t accuse him of ignoring you or he may go into his defensive mode and this could create an unnecessary argument. Keep the conversation light and concentrate on your feelings, not his lack of ability to include you.
Try coming up with some kind of signal that only the two of you understand. Like scratching your ear a few times to say “save me” when you’ve heard grandma’s cat story for the third time. This lets him know he needs to break away from what he’s doing and spend some time with you. It makes the evening go by a little less painfully.
Getting ignored is no fun for anyone and it’s an issue that needs to be resolved quickly in order to not have a negative effect on your relationship. Being open and honest is really the only way to let your partner know there is a problem. Remember to stay calm and try to talk about it rationally instead of hatefully. More negative vibes will just compound the quandary.
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