“OMG did I really just eat three pieces of pizza in front of him?” “What if he sees me without makeup?” “Do I sleep at his place yet?”
Does this sound familiar to you? Well join the club. Everything changes when you start dating someone new. And you constantly worry what he will think when he finds out that you’re not perfect. There’s nothing like that rush of emotions from the first kiss, but it always seems to be tangled up with the insecurity of it not working out. Anxiety can arise out of anything so make the best of it or you’re in for a bumpy ride.
We’ve all been in the situation where you’re so excited for the first date! Then it hits you. You have to eat. In front of him. You worry if you finish your meal, he will think you’re a pig. But if you don’t, he may think you’re insecure about your weight. You can’t win!
And then the sex! You can’t wait to get in the sack but he has to see you naked! What if he notices that stretch mark? Or the little roll that’s hiding under your jeans! Relax and face the reality. He either wants you or he doesn’t. Minor imperfections aren’t going to change his mind. Men have their own ego boosting issues to contend with. Like hoping he’s hot enough for you. Or if he performs well enough. And trust me, those thoughts don’t keep him awake at night, so they shouldn’t be eating away at you either.
Altering your traits and obsessing over non important issues is not the basis for a healthy relationship. Don’t see yourself through his eyes or be what he wants you to be. Instead, focus on getting to know him and his traits. What is he really like? Observe his actions and respond accordingly, to what makes you comfortable. Men love easy going relationships, not ones totally based on non fiction. They want to know that you are a real person, not some fake barbie doll who morphs as soon as you’re relaxed around him.
So laugh out loud, eat a burger, and stop needlessly obsessing! If he doesn’t like you the way you are, there is definitely a guy out there who will!
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