We all know what the Mile High Club is, but the Liar High Club? If you haven’t heard of it, that’s probably because I just made it up! A recent gathering with a group of friends is what prompted my latest post.
We were sitting around the table having a few drinks and, (let’s call her Brandi) well, her phone rang. It was her boyfriend (Jake), of four years who was “at work.” He informed Brandi that he was going to be late because someone had called off and he had to cover their shift. She was use to this so didn’t think much of it.
About an hour later, Brandi was on her way home and decided to take a detour past the house of one of Jake’s friends, who he frequently visited and lied about. This was Jake’s “spot” to go when he was “working late.” And what do ya know, there he was.
Before I go on, let me brief you on Jake and Brandi’s meeting. They went to school together and she always had a thing for him. They hung out but he was a ladies man and didn’t really give her the time of day. So Brandi started dating “Aaron” and they were together for a few years. Suddenly Jake comes back into the picture, knowing Brandi and Aaron are dating. They proceed to have a sexual relationship and eventually Brandi leaves Aaron. She starts dating Jake, knowing he is a habitual liar and a player. *Back to the story…
So Brandi calls Jake and says a few choice words before hanging up on him. He stays at his friends and comes home late as usual. She is upset that he lied to her, yet again. He justifies the situation by saying Brandi doesn’t like his friends so he feels lying is the best way to avoid confrontation from her. Hmm.. typical male? Did I mention he lives with Brandi but his mail goes to his friend’s house? Anyway…
This is the thought pattern of a lot of males who want to have their cake and eat it too. They want their guy time, and that’s fine. But why lie about it? I don’t get it. If he can’t man up and say, “Hey babe, I’m going to hang out with the guys tonight.” then your relationship may be headed down a doomed path. And if you can’t accept that he needs time, you have your own issues to deal with. Every person in a relationship needs their own time and space occasionally. It’s healthy and there’s nothing wrong with it.
What’s wrong is that you feel you have to lie about it. The logic in that is… what? She knows where you hang out and it’s very easy for her to find you, and you know she will. And she will get mad. Then you pay the consequence. Is it really worth all the trouble? Do you really have that little faith in her that she can’t accept you want to do something without her? Try including her once in awhile, maybe that will make it easier. Being selfish is one of the worst qualities you can possess when you’re in a relationship.
It’s not only guy time- anything you lie about will come back to bite you in the ass. So don’t do it! You tell one lie and that turns into another, and another, and another. Pretty soon you forgot what the original story was and bam! You’re caught! If you don’t have the decency to be honest with your partner, maybe you aren’t worthy to be with them. To me, lying is the worst quality in a mate. If you constantly accept it, you are enabling them to continue this awful pattern. If they lie about one thing, they’re going to lie about another.
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