When you ask a woman what she is looking for in a man, what is the typical answer you hear? “I want a nice guy who listens and understands me. Someone caring and sensitive, who makes me laugh and loves me for me.” Ok men- how many of you are out there? There’s probably plenty of you raising your hands and a few scratching your heads.
If this is really what women want, why are you still single? Why can you never seem to connect with or keep a girlfriend? The majority of you are answering in the same way. Because what she really wants, is a jerk.
Why is it that women always pick the “bad boy” over the nice guy? I don’t get it. They say one thing and yet do another. They’re always making excuses as to why they stay with him when he treats her like dirt. And when they break up, who does she call to comfort her? You. She won’t date you, but she can use your shoulder to cry on. What’s up with that?
I’ll tell you what’s up with that. Women say they want a nice guy, but when they have one, it’s like dating another chick. You aren’t “manly” because you’re too sensitive. You’re too shy or nervous. You’re not confident enough or you let her walk all over you.
There has to be a happy medium, right? If you’re one of those nice guys out there looking for a way to keep a great girl you found, follow these simple rules to better your chances at keeping you both satisfied.
Be confident but not cocky: Women like a man who can stand up for himself- and for her. Someone who takes pride and is sure of himself. Not a man who thinks he’s all that and a bag of chips. There is a difference between valiant and arrogant.
Take on the masculine role without being overbearing: Men, you are suppose to nurture her and take care of her. Not smother her. Watch how far you take your “man role” or you will push her away. That is a complete turn off.
Use humor in an attractive way: Laughter is one of the best remedies and the easiest way to get attention. If you can make her laugh, that is a total bonus. But don’t go overboard and be obnoxious. Show your playful side and she will be like putty in your hands.
Do not act weakly or submissive: It’s great that you can be a nice guy, but don’t go overboard and let her walk on you like a doormat. She shouldn’t be running the show- relationships are a team effort. You can cave once in awhile, but don’t always let her have her way. She needs to know you have an opinion about things too.
Be nice, but not TOO nice: Don’t treat her like you would treat your grandmother. Most girls don’t like men who drip sweetness. You need to have some manliness seeping out somewhere. Balance it.
Ok nice guys, today is the day to begin transforming yourself into the nice guy with a bad boy attitude. You finish last because you don’t spark a lot of attention. There is such a thing as being too nice. Women like a caring man but that man has got to take on the masculine role in interaction. Be interesting and desirable while fun-loving and adventurous. Try this hat on for size and see where it takes you. You may just end up on the greener side of the grass next time.
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