Gweneth Paltrow did it in A Perfect Murder, Sarah Jessica Parker did it on Sex And The City, and they aren’t the only ones. More women than ever are jumping in the sack with someone other than their husbands. Altho I don’t think we’ve quite surpassed men on the cheating scale, we are tending to put a few more notches in the bedpost. Here are the top 10 reasons why women cheat.
NOT ENOUGH SEX: Remember the days of staying up all hours of the night fooling around? Yea, me either. When children and other responsibilities enter the mix, sleep sometimes becomes more important than sex. Just like men, women like to feel needed and desired. If we aren’t feeling that way, we could seek it elsewhere. To keep the passion alive, have date nights, send sexy emails or texts throughout the day. Don’t let life stand in the way of kissing, cuddling, and especially sex.
REVENGE OR PAYBACKS: Whether you blew the tax refund on a trip to Vegas, or got caught in a big lie, you broke her trust, and possibly her heart. If a woman feels wounded and betrayed, she will seek revenge. She wants you to feel the same pain she felt. Actions speak louder than words. Saying “I’m sorry” isn’t enough to regain trust. Women need to be shown.
WE’RE FEELING LIKE A BAD GIRL: Like the men who have a need to sow their wild oats, women have an inner sex kitten waiting to be unleashed. When that cat escapes the cage, look out world! This frisky beast usually rears it’s ugly head in the face of a big life change: mid-life crisis, major weight loss, new job or friends, etc. Keeping the relationship line of communication open works much better than spilling your guts to a total stranger at the night club.
SELF ESTEEM ISSUES: Sex is an instant ego and self esteem booster. It makes women feel sexy, beautiful, and loved. But just because a woman has self esteem issues doesn’t mean she’s going to cheat. A little flattery goes a long way with us. Don’t hold back on the compliments, ask us questions, and pay attention to us.
FEELINGS OF NEGLECT: Women are known to wear several hats in a relationship. Such as housekeeper, chef, chauffeur, nanny. If we begin to feel more like a maid than a wife/girlfriend, we tend to stray. And the fact that all of your extra time is spent in front of the computer or out golfing is extra reason for us to wander. It makes us feel under appreciated and ignored.
EMOTIONAL WITHDRAWL FROM YOU: Women not only need physical support, but we need emotional support as well. If you retreat from the relationship and don’t discuss things, we take this as a sign of it being over and a breakup is inevitable. I guess this isn’t really cheating, but it’s moving on. To avoid this, men must stay present in the relationship and discuss their icky feelings. The more we are ignored by you, the more we crave attention from others.
LACK OF INTIMACY: And I don’t mean sex. Women love to snuggle, kiss, communicate. This is an absolute necessity if your relationship is going to work. There’s more to intimacy than sex. Take the time to give us a foot rub, or humor us and go see that new chick flick. Anything that brings unity and closeness makes us feel secure and happy.
BEDROOM BOREDOM: Sex becomes monotonous if you let it. Same position, same time, same person. If you don’t spice it up by doing the unexpected, things are bound to go down the toilet. Sneak away for a weekend retreat, make out at the movies, do ANYTHING that isn’t the norm for you. To avoid routine, you must avoid repetition.
REVENGE CHEATING: Yes, paybacks are a bitch. Getting cheated on is no fun and you want to return all the pain and misery you suffered. Is it right? No. But it sure does make you feel better. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!
IT’S YOUR EXIT STRATEGY: Instead of breaking up, you see cheating as a way out. This really isn’t rational thinking, but it sounded good at the time. Remember, you can’t undo what has been done, so think carefully about the path you choose.
If you think about it, most of the reasons women cheat can be easily avoided. Keep the lines of communication open, keep that spark lit, and we should have no reason to stray. If we do, well then, playa you’ve just been played. Yes, we can do it too.
06/07/2010 at 3:40 am Permalink
I like what was said about the inner freak in every woman. very true