Does it seem lately that your significant other is avoiding you? Does he not answer your phone calls or texts? Is he making lame excuses why he can’t get together? There’s probably a reason- you’re smothering him.
It’s a proven fact, no men like to feel trapped. Give your guy some space, and take some for yourself as well. Don’t call him 100 times a day. Instead, send him a text at the beginning of the day telling him how much you love him and can’t wait to see him later. If he knows you aren’t going to be blowing up his phone, he will be looking forward to speaking to you, not dreading it.
When he comes over do you instantly latch onto him and don’t let go until he walks out the door? Not good. Of course you should give him a nice big welcoming hug when he gets there, but let’s not overdo it. If it’s movie night and you want to snuggle but he’s not seeming too keen, let him pick the movie. Chances are, it will be a horror film or something scary to give you a reason to hang on to him. The key is to know when it’s ok and when it’s overdoing it.
Do you insist on hanging with the guys? Don’t. That’s forbidden unless you are invited. When he says he wants to go out without you, let him. Every relationship needs space, no matter how happy you are. Take that time to catch up with your family or your girlfriends.
If you have a solid relationship built on trust, there is no reason you need to spend every second of every day together. He doesn’t need to record every person he talks to at what time of the day and the conversation they had. That’s just psycho and if you’re doing that, stop. You will drive yourself insane wondering what he’s doing or who he’s with. Both of you will be much more at ease and happy with a little break here and there. It’s completely healthy and highly recommended.
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